Ending My Business Partnership
Today, I have decided, conclusively, I will end all working relationship with my business partner. We aren’t going to wait ’til June.
It all started this morning, on a very important day. We are expecting a couple of our largest one-time contracts to date. And everyone’s emails came in first thing. I had also just spent the weekend writing a third proposal to be submitted today.
He didn’t show up until 11:48am, on our most crucial day of the week. I have work to do, so I can’t just sit there waiting to make up the time. He came in with popcorn and lotion.
“Why?” I ask.
“Because I want to have popcorn if my date ends up at my place,” he says (paraphrased). Yes, the first thing he does while he’s late for work is think about after work. (Talk about living for the … weekday~)
“well why don’t you kick back and smoke a joint, and relax for it,” I suggested. I had just passed a blazing at work requirement, to hopefully help him ease into work. Because he tends to save all his energy and excitement for after work, and showing up the next day bare minimum, and it caused me to tense up. Yes, this is 100% my bad… only reading it out loud do I realize I sound like I’m mocking him…
“Can’t,” he says.
“That just proves my point.”
“Well I smoked couple big ones last night,” he clueless-ly replied.
“That just proves my point even more,” I said, while I looked at the clock.
He probably could sense the tension as I buried my self in my headphones and got back to work. And what he does next shook me to my core.
“Hey, can I get your attention for a moment? …I have a small show and tell,” he tentatively says. We use to have a small ritual about sharing something from the outside world that inspires us or is related to work. He takes his phone and shows me a snapshot of a magazine.
“They have magazines dedicated fully to cannabis,” he exclaimed (paraphrase). We have interest working in that industry.
“I sent you photos months ago of a magazine rack full of them, and a few times since,” I replied, uninterested. I don’t want to go any further. Yet, he figured he would double down.
“Yeah, but they have magazines dedicated to women too… this must be a big thing.”
The “deja-vu” of me holding that exact pink magazine to his face last week sent shivers down my spine. I had to leave the office.
As soon as I got home, I messaged him, “btw, did you book a meet after work?”
“Oh my god! I’ll cancel with him.” Disappointing.
It seems when the lights turn off in the office, they turn off in his head. He will be non-existent by skate season. Nothing is going to change that.
Bottom line: I’ve put my reputation on the line. However, I no longer trust he will deliver the professionalism and effort to get up to speed. It’s harming my ability to earn.
Tomorrow, after his date, I will tell him that I no longer wish to work with him anymore, effective immediately. All project proposals are null in my eyes.
Sometimes you meet people and they have a good head on their shoulders. But understand that may change over time. Do not to be blinded by what a great person that person use to be. Move on.
The clues of a person’s progression can usually be rooted in his personal life. Our passions drive our learning. And we are the average of the 5 people we hang out the most. I am doing him a favour. If he wants to keep up with his 9-5 and jobless friends, he needs to get a 9-5 (or be jobless). But I’ll write about that some other time.